I know that some of us are going through change right now and I want to encourage you today that it’s going to be okay.
Change can be a good thing.
Maybe something has happened to you, you’ve just lost your job, someone in your family has passed away, a change of career, a new addition to the family etc.
Whatever it is, change is uncomfortable. It is tough.
Giving Myself Grace
At the moment, I can only do so much in my current state (you can read about it here) because I get uncomfortable easily if I sit too long in my study trying to work. So I decided that instead of working, I’ll probably do some work on myself. Yes, some personal development because I so need it right now.
I’m also giving myself some grace and time to recover. Maybe this is just what you need too.
I wanna get myself to a better mental state, evaluate where I am right now and where am I going. I want to stop whatever that I’m doing and just work on the areas that I’m struggling with in my life right now and business. I want to better manage my time and practice better self care.
How can you care for someone else when you’re not taking care of YOU?
I’ve written this post a few years ago, but it still rings true today. At the end of that post, there’s a free printable where you can list down the nice things you can do for yourself today or this week.
Do You Need Change in Your Life?
Another thing about change, is that maybe we DO need change in our lives. Are you still in the same place you were 1 year ago? How do you feel about that?
I realised that we are constantly growing and learning and if we don’t challenge ourselves, we will be exactly where we are a year from now.
Does that scare you?
It sure does scare the heck out of me!!
We can’t grow if we don’t challenge ourselves. We can’t move forward and get those positive changes if we are constantly doing the same thing day in and day out and not get out of our comfort zone.
I want to be the best version of myself. I want to use the talents God has blessed me with for His purpose in this life. And I’m not there yet. I have a long way to go. I want to continue to challenge myself, to be a better wife and mum for my husband and kids. I want to do better in my life and business.
But change is hard. It’s uncomfortable. It’s painful.
I’m going through it right now.
It’s funny how it takes a broken ankle to knock some sense into me.
I prayed to God one day,
“Lord, I want to feel your love again”..
And I meant it.
I asked of this not because I don’t know He loves me, I know He does.. but because I used to feel His presence all the time. I always felt His warm love for me as a child, teen and young adult.
But because of the mundane day in and day out and of the busyness of life, I have forgotten how it was to feel His love again.
It Took This One Thing to Make Sense of Everything
Then I broke my ankle.
Suddenly all the attention was on me. I felt strange and somewhat uncomfortable. I’m an introvert. A lot of you don’t think I am. I really am. I’m shy and just want to hide away most of the time.
Messages, voice notes and emails kept pouring in. Meals after meals from family and friends were put on my doorstep or handed over to my husband. We even have our parish team prepare meals for us almost everyday for two weeks. Hannah’s teachers visited me with a huge hamper of snacks (from the centre) and a handmade card with lovely messages from the teachers there. The meals have helped us so much.
I was feeling so much love and gratitude. And it kept pouring down upon us. I also felt so unworthy of all of this.
Then it dawned on me. God has heard my prayer.
Maybe I shouldn’t have said anything, then maybe I’d have a different outcome. Lol.
But all jokes aside, I suddenly understood why everything happened the way it did.
‘And in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to his purpose’ – Romans 8:28
Positive Changes in the Family
So many changes have come upon my family. Mostly positive but of course a lot of sacrifices have to be made by my husband as well. He has to do twice the work at home, school runs, cooking, cleaning etc which has made me feel awfully guilty.
I have emotional days where I feel completely useless and other days completely productive. I can’t climb a flight of stairs now. I can’t even make a cup of coffee by myself, well I can, but I can’t bring it over to my office by myself without having someone to help me. Or shower by myself without a shower stool and some assistance. All those simple things that I used to take for granted..
But through it all, we are experiencing this change together as a family. My little ones are helping more around the house and responding to my beck and call. We are trying new meals that make it easy for me to now cook and help my husband with dinner. So my kids are now trying new different meals every day although my daughters are still quite fussy. But it’s great because they are now trying new things. We also got a new couch so I can be more comfortable and get up easily from the couch.
Why Change is Uncomfortable But Necessary
This experience has opened a whole new world for me in so many areas of my life. It’s mind-boggling.
I discovered there are amazing God-sent angels in our lives as well as people who we can or can’t depend on. It works both ways. Nevertheless, change can be a good thing although it can be scary. But it can be a great experience if you allow it to be.
However change won’t happen without some level of discomfort. If it’s not painful, you won’t grow. If only we can be courageous and allow change in our lives, we can discover a whole new world waiting to excite and inspire us every step of the way.
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